5 Questions That Will Help You Write a Heartfelt Note

The hardest part of writing a heartfelt note is finding the words to express yourself.

So often, the person or experience feels indescribable.

You might think: How could I possibly get it right?

But keep going. Research has found that we consistently underestimate the power of compliments – even though we need them to strengthen our relationships.

Here’s a better idea.

If you’re stuck expressing gratitude – read these inspiring notes from real-life users. We’ve paired them with 5 questions that will help you cross the finish line.

But heed our warning: these notes will melt your heart…

Be vulnerable

• “In a past life, I would often equate feelings with weakness. You are such a phenomenal example of how wrong that is…We need more people like you. More who hurt openly, love completely, and know exactly what the f*** they’re doing.”
• Ask yourself: How did this person change me?
• What would be different in my life without them?
• Go deep. Be willing to express those feelings in your note.

Capture a shared memory

• “I was happy to have lunch with you and Tim last weekend… I felt sorry not contacting you for so long because of my personal struggles but I wouldn’t be where I am today without you!”
• Ask yourself: Why am I writing this note?
• What happened that motivates me to write?
• Whether it was six years ago or yesterday, memories help us set the stage to share appreciation.

Don’t forget humor!

• “The way you hold off puking in Lyfts…amazing. <3”
• “Boy, you’ve got the world ahead of you. Keep being sassy. A bit curmudgeonly too. And damn, you can dance!”
• Ask yourself: What about this person leaves me 😂?
• Not everything has to be serious! Celebrate this person for their goofiest, most adorable moments.

Add a gorgeous metaphor

• “You are a blast of sunshine on my cloudy sky… a pinch of oregano in my overnight pizza… a handful of raisins in my plain oatmeal. You are a blessing to me every day!”
• Ask yourself: What does this person remind me of and why?
• The majority of notes we see use images to describe the recipient. It could be a light in the dark, an ocean of calm, a comet shooting through the sky…

Be simple

• “I’m sorry we’re on different coasts now, but you’re still my best friend.”
• “I’m so glad I met you.”
• Ask yourself: What do I need to say?
• Return to the root of your gratitude. Sometimes, the most powerful messages are that simple.
  

Maybe Father’s Day is coming up or your friend has been feeling under the weather.